There is a troubling idea, that I’ve seen going around more and more often, that if someone has committed a wrong, then anything that would normally be considered a “wrong” committed against said person is not actually a “wrong” but merely “justice” or “karma” or “something s/he had coming.”

Someone having committed a past wrong does not erase the wrongness of horrible things that are done to that person.

An action is wrong, no matter whom it’s committed against. Yes, that means that making a guy who used to bully, or even is STILL a bully feel so terrible through harassment and bullying that he would want to kill himself is completely, horribly, and disgustingly wrong.

Outing a girl who is a bully is wrong. Acting like it wasn’t a big deal, taking away her freedom to come out on her own terms, is wrong. Blackmailing her to join a club whose co-captain is the guy who outed her is wrong. Forcing her to listen to songs about who wonderful and loved she is, and how free she is to be what she “chooses” to be, but telling her she has no say in the matter of whether she actually has to listen to it or not, just because you want her to stop pushing the people, who mistreated her, away is wrong.

Telling a girl who went through a difficult teenage pregnancy, was disowned by her parents, forced to live in her boyfriend’s house, experienced dub-con/non-con as the first time she had penetrative sex, was called a tramp, and a teenage trollop behind her back, even by the people who claimed to be reaching out to her and be there for her, that her experiences were somehow not a big deal and invalid because she’d just said something completely marginalizing and showing ignorance of someone else’s problems is wong.

Wishing death on someone because s/he cheated or because s/he hurt someone or because s/he just did something that you didn’t like is wrong. Tweeting the actors who portray these characters is wrong. And most of all, acting like a mouthpiece for the victims while completely persecuting anyone who ever did something wrong that you feel like, while completely protecting others, and painting a big fat line between black and white, is wrong.